The one thing that you have that nobody else has is YOU — your mind, your voice, your story and your vision. Individuality is very important. Dr. Seuss emphasised this when he told us to:
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”
This quote hit the nail on the head for me. The people in your life who matter will appreciate you and your ideas💡 and those who don’t, are not worth thinking about.
So who are you? What makes you, YOU? Why are you here?
Some of our greatest leaders have contemplated these questions and recognised the importance of protecting an individual’s ability to act freely. One that comes to mind immediately (as many references were made to him in a brilliant TV series I’m watching called The Good Place) is John Stuart Mill.
You might know Mill’s ethical system of Utilitarianism from The Good Place, or from his book “On Liberty”. In summary, Mill attempted to establish standards for the relationship between authority and liberty. He argued that all people should value what originality brings to our world 🌎✨. Mill believed that people become more valuable to themselves and others when they develop their individuality. Why did he think this? The simple answer is that Mill thought people might learn something from the nonconformists i.e. seeing people’s dissimilarities is critical to learning about one’s own weaknesses.
Just recently I was very moved by a bold and courageous decision of a strong woman. Her individuality was expressed through her refreshing candour. How many of us can say that we would stand up for our convictions, even to powerful authorities? I think the answer to this question would be not many of us. It’s these unique characteristics such as bravery that distinguish another person from others.
As I said, there is nobody else like you. You only have one life. What are you going to do with it?
I received some lovely messages since my last blog. Thank you for letting me know what matters to you. At this very moment, I’m writing to you from my bathtub (full of Epsom Salts!) with Flight Facilities – “Two Bodies” playing in the background. If you haven’t heard of this song, please download it right now. It’s beautiful.
I realised after I published my blog on “Purpose” that love did not feature as something that matters to me. I should correct this because it definitely is important to me, but right now the only type of love that I need is self-love. Three weeks ago I decided that I will take a one year break from dating all together to focus on the other things that I mentioned in my first blog.
In my Instagram story right now I just read this quote:
“The basic attribute of mankind is to LOOK AFTER each other.”
Fred Hollows said this. He was fervent in his belief that we needed to help each other. I couldn’t agree more with Fred. We should be kind on a daily basis, and try to have empathy for those less fortunate than us.
Let’s not allow compassion to become a rarity.
Look around you… Tell me what you see? Earlier today I saw a lot of people rushing to get to work looking miserable under their umbrellas. Wouldn’t it be nice if more people looked up from their phones and shared a smile with a complete stranger. I know a simple gesture like this would be enough to put a spring in my step.☔️☀️ It’s the little things that can make all the difference.
So go out there tomorrow and aim to do something nice for yourself and/or for someone else. Look after each other because as Stephen Hawking said “we are very, very small, but we are profoundly capable of very, very big things.”
“If you think you are too small to make a difference, try sleeping with a mosquito.” ― Dalai Lama
Helen Keller inspires me. She was the first blind and deaf woman to earn a Bachelor of Arts degree in 1904. I’m sure that there would have been moments in Helen’s life where she felt too small to make a difference. However, this did not stop her from sharing her wisdom with all of us. Helen published a total of twelve books and several articles. I wonder if she knew what her ‘purpose’ was when she was writing. This word is the reason that I have decided to start a blog. I’m determined to find out what my purpose is.
I think the first step for anyone to realise their life purpose is to think about all of the things that matter to them. In my view, the three most important things in life are as follows:
The environment because without it we would cease to exist;
Health because without it one cannot live; and
Women. No further explanation is required.
The things that personally matter to me are my family, friends, kindness, human rights, nature, charities (Fred Hollows and White Ribbon), justice, books, writing and travel. All the above drives me, and makes me want to be a better person. What are the things that matter to you?